A real hero looks just like you and me. A real hero wants to better himself, picks himself up by the bootstraps and does whatever is necessary to provide a good life for his family.
“Their mom was always gone with her friends,” Tim said. “I had to learn to change diapers. Eventually, I said if I’m going to be alone all the time then I might as well be alone.”
Tim moved back to Pagosa where he grew up without a dad, just his mom and extended family. He was in trouble as a kid, drank, did drugs and spent time in and out of Denier Juvenile Detention Facility. He dropped out of high school. His daughter Monica was born when he was just 16 years old, “which is where most everybody starts off,” Elledge said. “Being a dad, I didn’t know what to expect,” Elledge said, Monica by his side. “I found love,” he added. “I shed some tears.”
He moved back in with his mom and shares one room with Monica, Nathan and Sadie. Baby Tim is living with the birth mom’s grandmother because the children’s mother is still not around. lledge would like to have his infant son with him, but there isn’t enough room right now
at his mom’s house. Tim Elledge works full time for Coca Cola. A job he says is good and something to stick with. He is working to earn his GED. But Tim doesn’t have a car, so he walks all over town, including making two trips a day walking between the two City Market stores for his Coca Cola job.
He found Seeds of Learning while walking around town and seeing the kids at the old facility. “The kids were having fun and they looked happy, so I went and talked with them.” Tim said.
Nathan started Seeds at the old building. But Tim is happy they have moved into the new building and have more room and more security. He worries some times about their birth mom, even though he went to court and has custody of his children.
“If I didn’t have custody of them right now I’d probably regret it. I see my dad today and he regrets it.”
So life has come full circle. Tim’s dad helps baby sit while he works on Saturdays and Sundays. “Everybody helps me out as much as they can,” Tim said. Including, Miss Lynne and all the teachers at Seeds of Learning.
“Miss Lynne is a great person. She keeps that school in top shape. She just understands,” Tim said. “And they send home activities that I can do with the kids. “It’s hard. They don’t got no mom. They are always asking about her.” Tim said. “But we make it through.”
Tim has big, heroic dreams for his children. He wants to see his kids graduate and go to college if that’s what they want. And he realizes that Seeds of Learning is helping him build a strong foundation for his children and for him. “They even helped me with potty training,” Tim said. “I think Seeds of Learning is a great place for everyone. Who doesn’t want to see their kids happy and safe?”
(originally published in 2008)